BESS makes a special effort to welcome those who are new to the BDSM and help each person find their own place in the lifestyle. Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM sexuality.

BESS is an educational and social organization for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM sexuality. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and various forms of role-play. BESS is pan-sexual; all genders and orientations are welcome.

We understand that when you first venture into the community you may feel both excited and nervous. These pages contains information to help you feel more comfortable and to make those first tentative steps easier.

We also understand that you may have concerns about attending a BESS event for the first time, so we strive to create a safe and comfortable environment for you to learn more about BDSM and to socialize with people who have similar interests. We are here to answer your questions and have a special point of contact for you. Please do not hesitate to email us at and we will assist you in any way we can. Also, please use the same email if you have suggestions on additional useful information you would like to see posted.