Welcome to the Baltimore Educational and Social Society

BESS is an educational and social group for consenting adults with shared interests in BDSM. These interests include, among others, Dominance & submission, bondage & discipline, leathersex, fetishism, cross dressing, and roleplay. BESS is multi-sexual. All genders and orientations are welcome to attend.

Our goal is to provide a safe, friendly, and discreet environment for the education and encouragement of adults interested in Safe, Sane, and Consensual expressions of BDSM.

BESS Contributorships, Educational Meetings, Socials, and SIGs are open to anyone, age 19 or older, with a sincere interest in some aspect of BDSM.

BESS is a 504C entity, however we operate on the principles of a not-for-profit organization.
We are NOT a sex or swingers club, although BESS play parties are sex positive.
We are NOT a dating service. We do NOT make referrals.

Questions? Please check either the New to BDSM or Contact Us links.

Letter to the Contributorship


To all 2019-2020 Bess Contributor’s,

I hope this email finds you all well, safe, and healthy. Hectic doesn’t even begin to touch the last few months, right? Time has changed to the “ new norm.”

The 2019-2020 BESS Board appreciates the continued support and patience during these troubling, and trying times. Covid-19 reared it’s ugly head in our Community in early March 2020 and hasn’t gone away yet.

Swiftly, in accordance with following state required mandates, BESS halted all in person classes, gatherings and parties.

Unfortunately, days turned into weeks, weeks turned into months and here we are six months later. Still with no end in sight.

Covid-19 has touched all us...hard, in one way or anther.
We understand and believe in keeping our “Community” safe and healthy, and educated. And in so feel it’s import to first say, thank you to all of you for hanging in there with us.

Secondly, we understand BESS has not been able to hold in-person meetings, and has only held one virtual education class in August. We feel it’s more then fair to extend your contributorship for an additional six months. All paid 2019-2020 contributorships will now expire on March 1, 2021. No action required.

As uncertainty remains around us, as to when we’ll be able to hold in person education meetings again, or have play parties, rest assured we are keeping a close eye on each and everyone’s safety. Please follow CDC guidelines, frequent hand washing, maintaining social distancing as much as possible and wear a mask.

Thank you for entrusting education from the entire BESS Board.