• The Internet is not reality (online “play” is nothing like real life)
  • Sturgeon’s Law applies (there is much misinformation on the Internet)
  • Scenes are not seductions (up-front negotiations are a crucial safety factor)
  • Submissive is not the same as doormat (beware of the CHuDWah, the Clueless Heterosexual Dominant Wannabe)
  • Travel at the speed of trust
    • Don’t rush into anything
    • There are bad people out there with their own agendas
    • It’s easy for someone to hide their true self and intentions behind a keyboard
    • The journey of BDSM discovery is its own reward