At BESS Education Meetings and at Munches:

  • Street-legal attire is expected in public spaces
  • Conversation without play is the rule

At BESS Socials (Play Parties):

  • Fetish-wear is acceptable but not required
  • Nudity is acceptable but not required
  • Furniture, such as spanking bencheds, crosses, slings, and cages, is for everyone’s use
  • Play occurs but participation is optional
  • Scenes are in public areas and may be watched
  • There are “Party Rules” that must be followed
  • Attendees are requested to bring something for the community food table
  • Cleaning supplies are provided and players are expected to clean public equipment after use
  • Dungeon Monitors (DMs) are present to enforce the rules and watch out for safety issues

At “Public” Dungeons: Same as for BESS Socials, except the following:

  • Sex is acceptable at some (not all) events but attendees are not required to participate
  • Some venues offer private or semi-private areas
  • There are “Dungeon Rules” that vary with venue
  • DMs are often present (but not at all events)